April 7, 2016

Madiba's Long Walk to Freedom



Nelson Mandela’s autobiography Long Walk to Freedom had been placed by my bedside for six years, but it seemed that I could never find the time to finish that dictionary-thick book. Finally I decided to listen to its audiobook. I listened to it while biking to grocery stores, waiting for a delayed flight, or on my way to visit a friend. With his words in my ears, all the mundane moments were magically transformed. Boston Sunday Globe said that the book “should be read by every person alive.” I am thankful that I did (listen to it). “I am no more virtuous or self-sacrificing than the next man, but... I could not enjoy the poor and limited freedom I was allowed when I knew my people were not free. Freedom is indivisible; the chains on any of my people were the chains on all of them, the chains on all of my people were the chains on me.” I had the great pleasure to recap the parts of his life that have a lasting impression on me.

The Beginning
Madiba (Nelson Mandela’s clan name, referred to as a term of respect) was born on July 18, 1918 in Mvezo, a tiny village in the Transkei, eight hundred miles east of Cape Town in South Africa. His father was the chief of Mvezo and a respected counselor to two kings of Thembuland. As a boy, Madiba rubbed white ash into his hair to imitate his father. Later his father was deposed by the white magistrate whom he defied. After the deposition, his father lost his fortune and title, and his mother, his father’s third wife, moved to the village of Qunu, where Madiba spent his happy boyhood, running barefoot in the grassy valley, swimming in clear streams, making toys from clay and tree branches, stick-fighting with other boys, and herding sheep and calves in the maize fields and green pastures. As a boy, he learned that to humiliate another person is to make him suffer unnecessarily after an unruly donkey threw him off its back in front of his friends. So he learned to defeat his opponents without dishonoring them. Occasionally, whites passed through his area and they appeared as grand as gods to him. He was aware that they were to be treated with fear and respect. At age seven, on the first day of school, he was given the English name, Nelson. Two years later, his father passed away.

After his father’s passing, his mother told him that he would be leaving Qunu. Before they disappeared behind the hills, he turned to look for one last time his village. He rested his eyes on the three huts where he enjoyed his mother’s love and regretted that he had not kissed each of them before he left. They traveled by foot and in silence until the sunset before they arrived at the Great Place, Mqhekezweni, the royal residence of Chief Jongintaba Dalindyebo, the acting regent of the Thembu people. Jongintaba had offered to be Madiba’s guardian for he had not forgotten that it was Madiba’s father who made it possible for him to become the chief.

His mother returned to their old home and Madiba was quickly absorbed in his grand new life, wearing handsome new outfits, going to the one-room school next door to the palace, and sometimes dancing the evening away to the beautiful singing of Thembu maidens. Justice, the regent’s son, who was handsome, muscular, and outgoing, and followed by many female admirers, became his best friend and his first hero after his father. Madiba became conscious of the temptations of money, class, fame, and power. He did his best to appear suave and sophisticated in front his peers. He also developed his interest in African history, which was not to be found in standard British textbooks.

Madiba learned a great deal about leadership by observing the regent and the meetings he held at the Great Place. After opening the meeting by thanking everyone for coming and explaining the purpose of the gathering, the regent remained silent until everyone had voiced his opinions, including their criticism of the regent himself. Only at the end of the meeting would the regent sum up what had been said. If no agreement could be reached, another meeting would be held. Madiba always remembered the regent’s axiom: a leader is like a shepherd, who stays behind the flock, letting the most nimble go out ahead, whereupon the others follow, not realizing that all along they are being directed from behind.

Entering Manhood
At age sixteen, accompanying Justice and along with twenty-four other young men, he received an elaborate tribal ritual in preparation for manhood--circumcision. During the several days staying in seclusion lodges with other initiates before the ceremony, he was almost convinced by an engaging and glamor boy at the circumcision school that to be a miner was more alluring than to be a monarch; to be a miner meant to be strong and daring, the ideal of manhood.

At the end of their seclusion, Madiba was gifted two heifers and four sheep and felt rich for suddenly he had property! He was hopeful that one day he might have wealth, property, and status. He was not jealous of Justice who had inherited an entire herd, for he knew Justice was the son of a king while he was destined to be a counselor to a king. However, his colored dreams were darkened by the speech by Chief Meligqili at the end of the day who addressed the young fellows that all black South Africans were a conquered people and they were tenants on their own soil and had no control over their own destiny in the land of their birth.And the gifts they received that day were naught as compared to the greatest gift of all, freedom and independence.

At the time, Madiba regarded the white man as a benefactor not an oppressor, and dismissed the chief’s words, thinking the chief was ungrateful for what the white man had brought to their country. However, a seed was planted, though Madiba let that seed dormant for a long season.

Soon after his return from the ceremony, the regent drove him to Clarkebury Boarding Institute, a place far grander than the Great Place. He was introduced by the regent to Reverend Harris who ran Clarkebury with an iron hand. Madiba worked in Reverend Harris’s garden, which planted in him a lifelong love of gardening and growing vegetables. He also saw a gentle and broadminded individual behind Reverend Harris’s forbidding mask, who believed in the importance of educating young African men.

On the first day of classes, Madiba walked clumsily in his new boots on the shiny wooden floor, a female student said to her girlfriend loud enough for everyone to hear, “The country boy is not used to wearing shoes.” Later she became Madiba’s first true female friend, with whom he could confide and confess his weaknesses and fears that he would never reveal to another man.

At Clarkebury, he emulated sophisticated and cosmopolitan students, but was proud to think and act like a Thembu. He believed that he would become a counselor to the Thembu king and to be a Thembu was the most enviable thing in the world.

In 1937, at age nineteen, Madiba joined Justice at Healdtown, the Wesleyan College in Fort Beaufort, which was far more impressive than Clarkebury. It was then the largest African school below the equator. Like ClarkeburyHealdtown was a mission school of the Methodist Church, where the students were aspired to become “black Englishmen.”

At the end of the final year at Healdtown, the great Xhosa poet Krune Mqhayi visited the school and gave a speech on the African pride and Xhosa pride since he was one, and the brutal cultural clash between Africa and Europe. At that time, Madiba danced between seemingly contradicting ideas, such as tribalism versus Africans of all tribes, and standing his ground as an African, yet still eagerly seeking benefits from whites.

Justice, who enjoyed playing more than studying, remained at HealdtownMadiba was accepted to the University College of Fort Hare, which was founded by Scottish missionaries and situated where the British defeated the gallant Xhosa warrior, the last Rharhabe king in the 1800s. It was Oxford and Cambridge, Harvard and Yale, all rolled into one for young black South Africans, and home and incubator of some of the greatest African scholars, whom he met and was taught by. Madiba believed that the missionary schools’ benefits outweighed their limitations.

He was proud to be the first member of the regent’s clan who would have a university degree. At age twenty-one, he could not imagine anyone at Fort Hare smarter than he. He was encouraged to study law by a friend. But his upperclassmen treated him with disdain and mocked his English accent. He organized to elect their own House Committee which defeated the upperclassmen. That was one of his first battles with authority, and he felt the sense of power that came from having right and justice on his side.

He continued to be more active in sports, such as soccer and long-distance running. The valuable lesson he learned from the training in cross-country running was that he could compensate for a lack of natural aptitude with diligence and discipline. He not only participated actively in sports, but also joined the drama society and acted in a play about Abraham Lincoln as his assassin. He not only learned about physics at Fort Hare, but also another precise physical science, ballroom dancing. In an African dance-hall in a neighboring village, he felt embarrassed to find out that the lovely young woman he asked to dance with was the daughter of one of the most respected African leaders and scholars of the time.

Fort Hare took pride in its intellectual and social sophistication. Madiba wore pajamas for the first time, brushed his teeth with a toothbrush and toothpaste for the first time, and used water-flush toilets and hot-water shower for the first time. The students boasted about their athletic prowess and how much money they were going to make after graduation. With a B.A., a university degree, they would become the African elite. Madiba dreamed to restore his mother’s wealth and prestige, and would build her a proper home in Qunu with a garden and modern furniture.

Yet, as he became more “sophisticated,” he yearned for simple pleasures that he enjoyed as a country boy. He joined a group of young men for secret evening expeditions to the university’s farmland. They built fire and roasted mealies.

During one winter holiday at Fort Hare, he witnessed how his friend, whose father had twice been president-general of the African National Congress (ANC), defied the white magistrate by refusing to take his change. Though he found it disturbing, he admired his friend’s courage. Later, he was elected one of the six representatives of the Student Representative Council, but insisted on resigning, twice, when the authorities didn’t accept two of the students’ demands before the election. He had to decide whether to continue to get his B.A., a passport for success, or to stand up for what he believed in. When he returned to Mqhekezweni during the break, he and Justice were shocked to hear that the regent had selected brides for them to marry soon. With all the education the regent afforded him, Madiba was prepped to reject such traditional customs. The only solution seemed to be running away with Justice to Johannesburg.

Johannesburg
After failing to use the regent’s relations to get a job at a gold mine and lying or intentionally omitting certain facts to get accommodations from family friends, Madiba learned the importance of having the courage to speak the truth the hard way. Later in Johannesburg, he met a young successful African businessman and local leader, Walter Sisulu. They became close friends and years later worked together as leaders in their lifelong struggle against the Apartheid. With Walter’s recommendation, Madiba worked as a clerk at a Jewish law firm where he found Jews to be more broadminded than most whites on racial and political issues. After meeting Walter Sisulu, who had never gone past Standard VI (8 years of schooling in South Africa), Madiba’s previously firm belief of having to have a B.A. in order to succeed and become a leader was shaken.

While working as a clerk at the law firm, he planned to complete his B.A. degree at the University of South Africa by correspondence, and then pass the exams in law while working several years of apprenticeship to become a practicing lawyer. At work, he met many colleagues who influenced him greatly, a kind Jewish boss who abhorred politics, an influential African community leader, and his first white communist friend. He was invited by his white communist friend to parties where there was a mixture of whites, Africans, Indians, and Coloreds. Madiba was anxious to go to the party because he managed to find only a tie to wear. At Fort Hare, he learned the social importance of wearing proper attire to match his education. But at the party, he was introduced to someone who had a master’s degree didn’t even wear a tie! He also felt shy and unequipped to participate in the sophisticated dialogue there.

While working in Johannesburg, he lived in Alexandra, also known as “Dark City” for lacking of electricity. In Alexandra, the boundaries among different African tribes blurred. Though poverty and violence stricken, Alexandra’s urban life was alive and adventurous and the Africans lived with a sense of solidarity, which concerned the white authorities that relied on divide-and-rule tactics and ethnic divisions to govern the Africans.

With two pounds a month from the law firm, Madiba managed to survive on extreme meager resources, wearing the same old suit that his boss gave him for five years, sometimes eating only one hot meal a week offered by his landlord, and many days walking six miles to town in the morning and six miles back in the evening to save bus fares. Poverty caused pain and struggle, but also brought him true friendship, and even love. During that time, he developed his inner strength to stand on his own feet for he didn’t need to depend on his royal connections or family support to advance. Also during that time, he restored his regard for the regent when the regent visited him in Alexandra. But Madiba’s attempts to persuade Justice to go back to the regent failed.

Madiba was offered free accommodation in the WNLA compound closer to Johannesburg downtown, where he met tribal leaders from all over South Africa. One time, a queen regent addressed him directly, “What kind of lawyer and leader will you be who cannot speak the language of your own people?” He realized that he had succumbed to the ethnic divisions fostered by the white government and could not speak the same language of his people. And without language, how could he talk to them, understand them, grasp their history, or appreciate their poetry and songs?

Six months after the regent’s visit, he heard about the death of the regent and went back to Mqhekezweni, where Justice stayed to succeed the regent as chief, and Madiba returned to Johannesburg alone. Though in his heart he knew he was and would always be a Thembu, his horizon went way beyond Thembuland and the Transkei.

At work, he continued to weigh different views expressed by his colleagues.
“Do you see those men and women scurrying up and down the street? What is that they are pursuing? I’ll tell you: all of them, without exception, are after wealth and money because wealth and money equal happiness.”
“I have been involved in politics for a long time, and I regret every minute of it. I wasted the best years of my life in futile efforts serving vain and selfish men who placed their interests above those whom they pretended to serve.”
“If you get into politics, you will lose all your clients, you will go bankrupt, you will break up your family, and you will end up in jail.”

But he was more leaned towards his African coworker Gaur’s influence. Gaur believed that, for Africans, the engine of change was the African National Congress (ANC), which preached the goal of Africans as full citizens of South Africa. Gaur also said that if they were to depend on education alone, they would wait a thousand years for their freedom. With GaurMadiba went to ANC meetings as an observer, and marched with Gaur along with ten thousand others in support of the Alexandra bus boycott against the raised bus fares. The march greatly impacted him and in a small way, he departed from an observer to a participant.

He realized that having a successful career and a comfortable salary were no longer his ultimate goals. He swam in his new environment where common sense and practical experiences were more important than higher education. At the university, teachers shielded away from the topics on racial oppression, but he had to deal with such matter every day; so he had to learn by trial and error.

After completing his B.A., he enrolled in the University of the Witwatersrand (known as “Wits”), the premier English-speaking university in South Africa, for a bachelor of laws degree. It was at Wits where he had regular contact with whites of his own age as the only African in the classes. He met a core of sympathetic whites who later became his friends and colleagues, but most of the whites were not liberal or color-blind. Though the hostility was mostly muted, he felt just the same. Though he didn’t finish his studies there, it was at Wits where he met white and Indian intellectuals of his own generation who would form the vanguard of the most important political movements in South Africa.


He later worked in different firms and was angry to find out that the white firms charged the affluent white clients less than the black clients. In 1952, he and Oliver Tambo opened the first all black African law firm in the country. The firm ceased to exist after the anti-Apartheid began to consume most of their time.

Birth of A Freedom Fighter
It wasn’t on a particular day that Madiba said to himself that from that day on he would devote himself to the liberation of his people. It was a steady accumulation of countless indignities and seemingly uncrucial moments that led him to devoting his life to the liberation struggle. Under the tutelage of his friend Walter Sisulu, he joined the ANC. At that time, Africanism struck a chord in him for he realized that he had been susceptible to the appeal of being perceived by whites as “cultured,” “progressive” and “civilized.” He had been drawn to becoming the black elite that Britain sought to create in Africa and enjoying the relationships with the white establishment. Many felt that the ANC as a whole had become the preserve of privileged African elite who were more concerned with their own rights than those of the masses. Consequently, the Youth League was born to reaffirm African nationalism and overthrow of white supremacy. Its manifesto stated: “...the national liberation of Africans will be achieved by Africans themselves...”

At the time, Madiba was among those who firmly opposed to allowing Communists (the Party was dominated by whites) or whites to join the league for fear that the blacks would remain prey to a continuing sense of inferiority. He was suspicious of the white left and wary of white influence in the ANC. He felt the same way about the Indians because of their superior education, experience, and training.

Although he was elected to the executive committee of the Youth League, he was nervous to join and still had doubts about the extent of his political commitment due to the little time he had outside of working full-time and studying part-time. Also he felt insecure and politically backward and was intimidated by the eloquence of so many in the league. It was in 1947 when he was selected to the Executive Committee of the Transvaal ANC, he began to identify himself with the organization. The more he became involved with the political movement, the less he could spend time with his family, which was his lifelong dilemma. To put in his own words, “I did not in the beginning choose to place my people above my family, but in attempting to serve my people, I found that I was prevented from fulfilling my obligations as a son, a brother, a father, and a husband. In that way, my commitment to the millions of South Africans I would never know or meet was at the expense of the people I knew best and loved most.

Long Walk to Freedom
It was a long walk before he came to embrace not only the Africans, but the Indians, the Coloreds, and the whites, who fought against the same system in a larger international and historical context. It was a long walk before he became an international icon as a leader from a family and career focused man, to going back and forth between courts and jail, to leading the liberation movement underground as an outlaw, to traveling internationally seeking funding for the anti-apartheid armed struggle in South Africa, to spending twenty-seven and a half years behind the bars, to negotiating with the white government to co-establish a democratic government even before he could persuade his ANC colleagues, and to becoming the first black President of South Africa.

When he went underground and was dubbed the Black Pimpernel, his outlaw existence caught the imagination of the press. He traveled secretly about the country and even fed the mythology of the Black Pimpernel by phoning individual newspaper reporters from telephone booths about what the ANC was planning and the ineptitude of the police. He would pop up here and there to annoy the police and to delight the people. Although he was a gregarious person, he loved his solitude to plan, to think, to plot. But he missed his wife and kids dearly.

He first embraced Gandhi’s nonviolent resistance, and later advocated armed struggle despite the strong opposing voices from other ANC leaders. He once suggested Walter Sisulu visit the People’s Republic of China to ask for support. Years later when armed struggle seemed more necessary, he traveled internationally to raise funds to form MK, a military organization in South Africa to sabotage the white establishment. The armed struggle led to increased military oppression by the white government and civilian deaths, but later also played certain role on the negotiation table between Nelson Mandela and the National Party government (Dutch rule). As he worked with the white President of the National Party, F.W. de Klerk, for South Africa's first national, nonracial, one-person-one-vote election, they faced violent opposition from the conservatives of both the Africans and the whites. He told a rally, "I will go down on my knees to beg those who want to drag our country into bloodshed."  

During the twenty-seven and a half years behind the bars, he continued to live fully through studying law, performing in plays, playing tennis and boxing, and gardening, while strategically interacting with the prison authorities and fighting side by side with his comrades for the basic human dignity in prison. His vision continued to deepen and widen and his leadership transcended.

During the harsh time in prison, Madiba learned that “the human body has an enormous capacity for adjusting to trying circumstances... one can bear the unbearable if one can keep one’s spirits strong even when one’s body is being tested.” Gardening was one of his pleasures in prison which gave him a small taste of freedom. After being transferred to a prison on the mainland from Robben Island where he had worked in a small garden, he requested sixteen 44-gallon oil drums sliced in half and had them filled with rich and moist soil. He grew “onions, eggplant, cabbage, cauliflower, beans, spinach, carrots, cucumbers, broccoli, beet root, lettuce, tomatoes, peppers, strawberries, and much more.” At its peak, he had a small farm with nearly nine hundred plants. He not only supplied the prison kitchen with fresh vegetables, but also some warders.

Three years before he turned 60, his friends in prison, Walter and Kathy, suggested he ought to write his memoirs. To avoid the warders’ watchful eyes, Madiba wrote during the night and slept during the day. Each day, he passed what he wrote to Kathy to review and then read it to Walter, then Kathy wrote their comments and criticism in the margins for Madiba to revise, then the manuscript was given to Laloo Chiba who spent the next night transferring it to microscopic shorthand. Another prisoner Mac later smuggled the transferred manuscript to the outside world. The actual manuscript was discovered and confiscated by the prison authorities.

At the end of Long Walk to Freedom, he wrote:
"I always knew that deep down in every human heart, there is mercy and generosity. No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite. Even in the grimmest times in prison, when my comrades and I were pushed to our limits, I would see a glimmer of humanity in one of the guards, perhaps just for a second, but it was enough to reassure me and keep me going. Man's goodness is a flame that can be hidden but never extinguished. 

It was during those long and lonely years that my hunger for the freedom of my own people became a hunger for the freedom of all people, white and black. I knew as well as I knew anything that the oppressor must be liberated just as surely as the oppressed. A man who takes away another man's freedom is a prisoner of hatred, he is locked behind the bars of prejudice and narrow-mindedness. I am not truly free if I am taking away someone else's freedom, just as surely as I am not free when my freedom is taken from me. The oppressed and the oppressor alike are robbed of their humanity.

When I walked out of prison, that was my mission, to liberate the oppressed and the oppressor both. Some say that has now been achieved. But I know that that is not the case... We have not taken the final step of our journey, but the first step on a longer and even more difficult road. For to be free is not merely to cast off one's chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others. The true test of our devotion to freedom is just beginning."

Martin Luther King, Jr.'s wife, Coretta Scott, was on the podium of Madiba's inauguration as South Africa's first black president when Madiba made reference to her late husband's immortal words: "Free at last! Free at last!"


Returning to Childhood Home
Two months after his release, Madiba finally had a chance to visit his mother’s unadorned grave in Qunu. He felt remorse that he hadn’t been able to take care of his mother and a longing for what might have been had he chosen a different life. Though the people of Qunu were not political, Madiba heard the schoolchildren singing the songs related to the struggle. To his dismay, his childhood village remained poor if not poorer. Additionally, the village was unswept, the water polluted, and the land littered with plastic trash, as compared to what he knew as a boy when the village was tidy, the water pure, and nobody knew of plastic.

Endnote
Madiba understood deeply that freedom is way more than the world beyond prison walls. In today's environment, freedom also includes having access to clean air, fresh water, and lush nature. The temple is not built in a day; it takes a village to lay one brick at a time. It’s a long walk to freedom for all as we ponder the direction in which we are heading as a species.    

March 20, 2016

Reflecting in/on/with Nature

March 9, 2016
I am walking in the open green valley, looking for ways of connecting with this untamed landscape. A hawk flies over, gliding through the warm air all the way to the other side of the mountain. I am tempted to climb to the top of the mountain to see what’s on the other side, to stand tall and to see it all, and most of all, to feel that I am worthy. I stand still with my eyes closed, imagining me flying high and being seen. Isn’t this the meaning of life? To share my gifts and to be seen. I take a deep breath, open my eyes, and continue my way on the narrow trail. Under the sun, tiny orange flowers cluster by the roadside. Something about them slows down my hurried steps—that tiny beauty, so dignified and self-assured. Do they ever agonize over their inadequacy? Do they dream big? Do they still matter if no one notices them? I could’ve easily passed them by. I draw myself closer to them and begin to see the delicate details in each one of them. They are so beautiful! Tears pour into the corners of my eyes as stillness and warmth flow into my chest… That tiny orange color is so vast that it makes the mountain top far away so small. 

February 18, 2016
A little bird has been singing beautifully in the backyard for three days enticing me to go outside. I spotted her on a high branch the other day, announcing her arrival, her white belly moving in rhythm with her staccato song. Today is sunny and fresh, another good day! But where was she when it was rainy and windy? (I imagined her preferred pronoun being "she") .


February 10, 2016
Walking on a tree-shaded trail covered with soft brown leaves, I imagine being a walking tree, lifting my feet but staying connected to the ground. Through the tree branches, the gentle breeze brushes my moving body, lifting me upward until I feel like flying away, through light and shadow, like a bird. Above, a flock of small black birds are holding a community meeting on the fly, this way, then that way. When one topic is raised, the group echoes in chorus, “Agreed!” “Not agreed!” Or maybe they are just laughing at us, ignorant four-limbed erect creatures. 

Standing on a wooden bridge over a creek, I watch the water moving towards me from one side, then under me, then away from me. It is constantly flowing… 

When I see a garden, I am in awe, feeling the life force calling to me from way below the dark soil. I walk closer to a fruit tree, a flower, or a vegetable, I touch them gently to feel their vibration that resonates with mine. One day when my time comes, I desire to journey down and be part of that magical life cycle.


Every morning when I open my eyes, the birds fly by my window, calling me, “Outside! Outside! Outside!” 


November 16, 2015
I walked in nature on a quiet trail and stood under the canopy of a tree, hearing birds conversing in languages I don't understand and trees whispering to one another, sometimes giggling. I am nature illiterate, but just being there not knowing or gliding through the air with imagination was pure wonder, my breaths even and my body content. As I meditated on the question how we got here as a species, the time lapse of the human evolution unfolded on the inner landscape that I was part of. The magic of life emerges on the horizon... 


November 05, 2015

It's a morning like any other morning. I bike to the lake, park my bike by the fence, and walk to my favorite spot. The morning is a little chilly, according to Californian standard. Standing by the lake, looking at the reflections of trees and sky, the shimmering surface, listening to the birds' concert… my stress over some overdue work finally leaves me at peace. After all, as long as my breathing is in rhythm with the flow, everything will be just fine. A day unpaused is a day unlived.

March 18, 2016

Journals (2015)

“As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence actually liberates others.” — Marianne Williamson

March 30, 2015
Today is another day, as the morning sunlight slants through the blinds. But immediately, thoughts enter, yearning to feel worthy and to be seen. Heart is heavy again with that obsessive need for external validation. I breathe, hoping heaviness around my heart can be like smoke; puff, it’s gone. 
The church bell is striking 9. 

March 31, 2015
I hope I’ll fall in love and truly experience love, no matter what obstacles lie between love and me. Love unconditionally and let go of the attachment. Be free from the pressing of time, if there is love. Wouldn't it be amazing that I fall for someone? Is there one person who sees me in entirety? I am no longer dying to find that one person, but that longing still lingers. 
Fear of not having my own child and fear of having one. But please, no more fear about experiencing life as it is. Let the unknown be unearthed. 

This time I’ll fall 
for the sake of falling. 
On my way down, the invisible thick wall that’s been 
safeguarding my heart for so long is melted into tears.
The ungovernable heart, longing to dance
out of her ribcage,
to meet another ungovernable heart.
This time, I’ll fall
for the sake of falling…

April 1, 2015
 Isn’t it wonderful to feel free, to feel beyond, and to see the magic in all beings, including myself? Please, no more shame. Today I have the entire house to myself! I might just get lost in my own space and forget time. Insecurity. Why do I often feel insecure? Erase what's been imposed on me long ago—the societal standards of evaluating intelligence, worthiness, and even kindness. I want to just enjoy the wonder of life itself, breathing in, breathing out. 
My voice, my thinking, my trying, and all, one day, will be well revealed, unique in a universal way. Trust and accept. Now enjoy the wonder itself, no more comparison, only compassion and appreciation. 

April 2, 2015
While having breakfast, I again think of how I am living in a cocoon, yet desiring to come out, and yet am afraid to risk myself. Didn’t I weave one cocoon after another, chasing one goal after another during different phases of my life? But at the end, they are all the same, empty. And yet, without a cocoon, what would be my identity then? Will I be susceptible to anything, if I don’t hold on to something? As I float out of my cocoon and join the constant flow of life, how will I relate to my old cocoon? While persistently walking towards the unknown, I am caged by two almost contradicting longings, longing to feel valued and longing to feel peace. Meanwhile, I am afraid to take larger responsibilities by telling myself that I am unworthy. These are some of the things that unsettle me at night and during the day.
Sometimes I get tired of messages such as Be kind. Love is the answer. Selfless service. No matter how true these messages may be, I still need to deal with my own little voices: I am scared. I am not sure. I don’t feel loving now. Why am I so focused on myself? Shame on me. I am so pathetic! Can I just be bigger? Why am I such a slow learner of life? But deep down, I am sure of one thing that I want to continue to walk toward light.  
Have I ever truly believed in myself? Sometimes, those whose ideas or what they did or do impress me so much that I want to be like them. As I compare myself to them, I fall into the abyss where I feel lost and unworthy. I feel ashamed to face my envy of them and depression about my insignificance. I ask myself, “How can I be self-contained and be open at the same time? How can I gain and regain the power of thinking on my own, see things as they are, and take loving and fearless actions?” Though being loud and big is not the goal, when the time comes for me to be loud and big, I need to be willing to step up and put myself out there. 
The only way to live fully is to first listen to my own timid voice, to think on my own, and to be free…

April 3, 2015
 Fear and doubt fill every pore in the body of the cocooned lady. The cocoon is invisible to the flesh eyes. But in order to jump into that river of life, which is constantly changing, she needs to burst out of her cozy cocoon, which might lead to a dignified cocooned life in a separate pool on the riverbank. If she chooses to dive into the river of life, nothing is guaranteed, and yet it’s the only way to reach the Great. There is the risk of disappearing into the unknown, and yet who knows what magic might happen. Once in a while, the cocooned lady pokes a hole in her cocoon to grasp for fresh air that drifts from the river of life. Breathes in; breathes out. 

April 4, 2015
In my dream last night, I was in a workshop for unleashing full potential. When the workshop was over, I still felt blocked inside. I wanted to continue with the workshop, but my time was up, and the next workshop was about to start as a group of younger males entered…  
Lately, I’ve been experiencing great disgust about what we humans have done to each other and to the Mother Earth. Anything could trigger my anger, such as seeing people carelessly throwing away the disposable coffee cups after their enjoyable conversation with friends at a coffee shop, or going shopping to buy their tenth favorite shirts. As the pain became more and more unbearable, I began to feel a growing bitterness in my heart that I wanted human species gone. But the other night, after hearing my rant about my unbearable pain and my wish of wiping out humans because we deserved it, a gentle-mannered man listened quietly and said, “I think this human life is beautiful and I hope to see it continue." He is a gardener and a poet and his words were non-assuming and soft, and I felt each word hit the core of my being and I was speechless for a while. Then another person in the gathering said, we are not carrying the planet on our shoulders; we are small beings living on the Earth.
Now I feel more peace as I see more clearly how we have been living with such a transactional mindset in this human culture of convenience. I can choose from moment to moment how I want to live. “The beginning of the journey is glorious; the middle of the journey is glorious; the end of the journey is glorious.” I devote to my own ever-changing and expanding truth.

April 5, 2015
I am still trapped by the measurement of worthiness based on intelligence and capability, as I consider myself, sometimes, not smart enough. In front of people who are able and smart, I feel small and envious. In my heart, I know deeply what I long for—the peace that keeps my heart rate steady as I interact with either the President of the United States or a high school janitor. 
May I be free. 

April 6, 2015
I am staring at the blank screen and struggling for words, feeling a little sorry for myself, my barren love landscape, a once young woman getting old, alone. 
I am tired. 

April 7, 2015
I am looking at the photo of the six-year-old me, wishing I loved myself more fully back then.
Met Diego Deleo at the reading event, Quiet Lightening, in the city. He sat next to me and shared with me one of his poems:
“When the earth
Rearranges its ornaments
Causing doubt and fear
The human spirit
Comes to the rescue
Restoring peace and faith”
He began to write poems when he was 76, shortly after his wife passed away. He often sits in Washington Square in San Francisco to share his poems with strangers. 

Rising up from within is important. Bring out the basic goodness in all. Music, stories, and poetry can penetrate human hearts more easily than protests and debates. How can I overcome my fear towards the homeless in the streets?

April 9, 2015
    推倒那堵看不见的心墙,让心自由出行 (Push down the invisible wall surrounding my heart; let the heart be free). Noticing myself unfolding from moment to moment is amazing. I no longer expect to know what will happen in the next moment. We never know what opportunity cost would occur when we plan. 

April 10, 2015
To taste the organic flow of life, let the mind be quiet.  
Sometimes I could be an overbearing person too. I might think that my opinion is brilliant, but why don't others get it. I feel hurt when they withdraw and ignore my brilliance. It’s a long journey before I really understand and respect others’ truth. I need to listen more, to see what I didn't see before. Try to understand others first before expecting them to understand me. Listen deeply and do not argue even within myself. :)

April 12, 2015
Last night at The Pollination Project salon, after hearing my thoughts on creating a co-storying community online, Sam from Casa de Paz said, if someone creates a beginning of a story, then sends it to multiple people, and then those people continue with the story and send to other people, and keep it going. At the end, the story with the same beginning would be completely different animals!
I am still sad and frustrated about my family in China. Why can’t they be gentle and real with each other? Meanwhile, I know how much I love Mother, and how much I need to separate from her thoughts too. If I could help empower Mother to stand up for her own life!
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”   -- Victor Frankl 

April 13, 2015
Taking an inner journey by examining my own thoughts could be a drag. It’s like deep cleaning of my room. First it gets even messier after opening the hidden drawers and boxes before it's clean and fresh.
We are starting a revolution from within, that’s the way out, instead of being dragged by one problem after another which share the same root causes. The inner revolution and the outer revolution in the culture of convenience are one. 
Wisdom from the Poetic Pilgrimage Class, taught by Pratho Sereno:
“Singing off key shamelessly to let music out.”
“Music starts without sound, poem without words. Transition starts before music starts…”

August 4, 2015
I am Pisces, but still can’t swim. How can fish live without water? No, she can’t. Every summer in the past 10 years I said to myself, “This summer I will learn to swim.” But not a single summer I stepped into water. 
Have a firm handshake with my fear of water.
This summer,
I mean this very summer,
 I will learn to swim.

In memory of a poet, Patrick Hock, from the Poetic Pilgrimage Class, I share below his own words:
“Free of all that upward thrust and spiraling downward
I descend into a kinder world
Where my opinions matters a little
And my fears were given a bed to lay upon”

October 5, 2015
My love letter to you, yes, you!
Why are there so many layers that prevent me from connecting to you, from feeling your heartbeats, your pain, and your deepest longing? How can I lift that mystical veil off me with a fresh air of chutzpah? Could I let go all the layers that have enveloped me in false security for so long?
Every day, I am different, different from last year, last month, yesterday, even as I am writing this sentence, I am different from that "person" who wrote the last sentence. I so so so want to set out on my pilgrimage to unclutter my mind, purify my heart, and cleanse my soul, so that I can connect to myself, to you, and to this thing called life on Earth.
I am still in search of the right questions to live by. Meanwhile, the pain becomes unbearable of the separation I feel from you! Shall we take that quantum leap together?
Love,
Xiaojuan

October 28, 2015
I was walking to a literary event in a cool autumn night in San Francisco. Ahead of me, a homeless-looking man, maybe in his 60s, was pushing an empty shopping cart on the sidewalk in my direction. He pushed the cart left and right, seeming to intentionally block the pedestrians. The pedestrian walking ahead of me avoided him. My heart raced. As I was about to walk to the side too, the cart-pushing man stopped and spoke loudly, "You can't pass by me without a smile!" I happened to be standing right there, surprised. I smiled. He gave me a big child-like smile! Or maybe it was he who smiled first. We looked at each other, eyes to eyes, as we passed by, smiling. We were both innocent kids again. Before he walked across the street, he turned and said, 
"Have a great night!" 
"You too!" I said. 
A large dose of happy juice was shot into the chambers of my heart and then pumped out traveling all the way to my toes. Magic is everywhere if we allow it to happen. 

November 1, 2015
The Work (by Byron Katie): One-belief-at-a-time worksheet with A.T. Lynne
My Belief: I feel powerless to change the condition of the old world.
Rewire my old belief:
I am empowered to change the conditions of the old world with a deep sense of content and gratitude. The chair which holds me is held by the floor, the floor by the building, the building by the earth, and the earth by the universe, and the universe by...
The old world is powerless to conform me. I am free to think, to speak, and to act. I am light. The only thing I can really give to this world is the light that’s within me. Let it shine through all the dark corners of shame, fear, and guilt. The light connects with light. The light lights up all light. I travel to light up the world. 
I am light. 



November 21, 2015
You may grow leaves on your limbs; you may be coated with lichens; you may grow pedals; you may have four feet; you may think like me, or you may not. Let me meet you. 
Hiked with Mark Dubois in the Marin Headlands. He mentioned a quote from Marianne Williamson:
“As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence actually liberates others.”

February 10, 2016

Reflections After the 2016 January Earth Activist Training

It’s been two weeks since I returned home from the 2016 Earth Activist Training (E.A.T.) in Black Mountain Preserve in Cazadero, CA, but some part of me still lingers there… It feels like a “hangover” from taking in too much the goodness from an overwhelmingly enriched collective experience and I found it hard to put down in words. What really happened there? Where should I start if I am to recount that experience? How can I piece together such a rich experience that’s impacted me on so many levels, known and unknown? Then everything began to boil down to one word--connection. 

Connection to Self
“Xiaojuan, the only thing you need to worry about is studying. I would do anything to support you going to school, even if I had to climb the mountain that’s sharp as a knife or jump into the sea that’s full of fire. So when you grow up, you will not be like me, a peasant.” Mother’s words accompanied my growing up in China. In the '80s and '90s, peasants in China were not only excluded from enjoying the social benefits that the city or town residents enjoyed, but also had to pay heavy agricultural taxes. Being a peasant’s daughter was my biggest shame in my early years. 

My parents valued education and sent me to the best school in town to study. From the 1st to the 9th grade, I was the only country bumpkin in my class. I never invited any friends home or let Mother visit my school. Getting away from the dirty soil was the only way to leave shame behind. 

During the Earth Activist Training course, getting my hands dirty in soil and compost was homecoming to me. What an honor to be the daughter of a peasant Mother who knows how to grow food out of the soil! Though she didn’t want me to be a peasant, she has never stopped planting seeds, growing vegetables and flowers in her life. During the course, I finally knew the name of the small orange flowery plant that she used to grow all around my childhood home. It was Calendula! 

One rainy afternoon, we layered a composting pile by alternating between one layer of wood chips and one layer of food scraps and yard waste. Then we began sheet mulching over the soil near the entrance of the retreat center. We laid down the cardboard and then covered them with wood chips and bio-brew. While wheelbarrowing the wood chips to the sheet mulching spot, I could barely open my eyes as rain water splashed off my face. But working in a collectively high spirit in the rain injected so much buoyancy in my gaits, despite that my feet were soaked in my shoes. The day before, when we were making bio-brew during our morning circle outdoor, the rain started pouring, but we continued to sing and dance... 

I am a little proud to list here what I took part in during the E.A.T. course: composting and sheet-mulching, building graywater system, making A-frames and digging swales, seeding and propagating, pruning and grafting, making biochar and biobrew, inoculating mushrooms, making cob and refurbishing a cob oven, making hydrosol, and more. The nature view from the outdoor toilet at Golden Rabbit Ranch was breathtaking. Plus, the human manure would be put into good use. What could be more empowering than living off the land using wisely the harvested "free" energy sources? 

The most common interaction between the students and the teachers sounded like this:
"Is it the best way to..."
"It depends."

Making cob (Golden Rabbit Ranch). Photo Credit: Brooke Porter


Returning to the land is reclaiming my roots, returning “home,” my eternal sanctuary, where there is no shame, only dignity and freedom. 

Connection to Others
We were a diverse group, consisting of different ethnicities, ages, genders, orientations, backgrounds, hearing and non-hearing, and beyond. As in plant guilds, diversity creates resilience, which was proven true as we powered through difficult discussions in our circle. At the end of the training, we felt so close to one another and knew that we would forever remember those 14 days of learning and unlearning, staying open and growing close in 50 circles of sharing, and culminating with team project presentations and our very own talent show.

Before every meal, we joined hands and gave blessings to the food and thanks to those who contributed their labor of love. Every morning, we held an opening circle; every night, we held a closing circle. We circled to welcome the four elements from four directions, the air, the fire, the water, and the earth, and the spirit from the center, and we sang and danced. We spiraled in and out, looking into each other's eyes while passing... 

I learned a few signs from our interpreters who signed for the deaf students. I was amazed by the way the words being translated into such animated signs. How could I ever forget what the deaf students shared with us the noble deaf culture and their bumpy yet rich journeys of arriving where they were in life at that moment. “If there were a hearing pill available to me, I would not take it,” they said. It has remained as one of the top highlights of the E.A.T. course for me, and it continues to inspire me to claim my own noble nature. 

Pomo and Miwok friends, whose ancestors settled on this land way before anyone else, shared their profound inner world and outer conditions, from the past to today, from traditions to current food sources, from dance to music… and how they transformed anger into love and generosity. As I breathed in the wisdom words, my heart opened more.

As we journeyed further, besides discussing organisms, we included other “isms,” such as audism (discrimination based on one's ability to hear) and racism. We spoke our truth in big and small circles, together and separately. We rode on the roller coaster of our raw and true emotions, up and down, holding tightly as an elastic circle. Our circle did not break; instead, it was strengthened and cleansed by our tears and laughter. Our facilitators Starhawk, Pandora, and Charles held that sacred space and time for us to dive into the discomfort zone of anger and hurt, and then return with an expanded heart and mind that would carry us on in our shared meaningful future. 

Thich Nhat Hanh’s poem Please Call Me by My True Names offers a great reminder for us to see our human potential in forgiving and loving, and recognizing the basic goodness in all. 

Time warped during our E.A.T. course because our experiences were so intense that our awareness amplified more memories than usual into a short time interval. My brain was tricked into thinking more time had passed, especially during the first half of the training, three days felt like three years and we had known each other for a long time in an intimate community.

Together we planted on the hugel kultur bed we made (Golden Rabbit Ranch). Photo Credit: Brooke Porter Photography 

"Merry meet, merry part, merry meet again."

Connection to Nature
As a Chinese proverb goes, “Fallen leaves always return to the roots.” When one gets old, he goes back to where he was born. Now this ancient proverb is ever more visceral to me, as described in the book, The Earth Pathby Starhawk. 

“Imagine that you are a leaf, hanging tight to a twig on a high branch, waving in the wind… feeling what it’s like to feed from light, effortlessly… And now time passes. Imagine the first cold winds of winter beginning to blow... a freeze comes into your veins… And you take a deep breath... you let go and fall, letting the wind take you, and you swirl and dance and spiral... falling down and down and down… Until at last you come to rest on the earth… but the earth…is porous… alive with a billion hungry beings. And you take a deep breath and give yourself back to the earth, and she reaches up to embrace you, and a billion hungry months open wide to take you in… You descend, through great caverns and chasms… [passing through aunts, beetles, worms, soil bacteria, fungi…] long arms of the mycorrhizal fungi that stretch between the root hairs of the great trees… pass you from one tree to another… [Take] a deep breath, feel yourself sucked into the root hair, and up into the root, rising and rising on a current of sweet sap… higher and higher… you become part of a green bud that opens with the warmth of the spring sun…”  

Walking on a tree-shaded trail covered with soft brown leaves, I imagine being a walking tree, lifting my feet but staying connected to the ground. Through the tree branches, the gentle breeze brushes my moving body, lifting me upward until I feel like flying away, through light and shadow, like a bird. Above, a flock of small black birds are holding a community meeting on the fly, this way, then that way. When one topic is raised, the group echoes in chorus, “Agreed!” “Not agreed!” Or maybe they are just laughing at us, ignorant four-limbed erect creatures. 

Standing on a wooden bridge over a creek, I watch the water moving towards me from one side, then under me, then away from me. It is constantly flowing… 

When I see a garden, I am in awe, feeling the life force calling to me from way below the dark soil. I walk closer to a fruit tree, a flower, or a vegetable, I touch them gently to feel their vibration that resonates with mine. One day when my time comes, I desire to journey down and be part of that magical life cycle.

Every morning when I open my eyes, the birds fly by my window, calling me, “Outside! Outside! Outside!” 

Going Forward
I stayed at the Golden Rabbit Ranch for 3 more nights after the course. On the last day, as we raked, wheelbarrowed, dug and picked to flatten the parcel where Starhawk visioned to hold circles next to where a Chinese medicinal garden would be, I asked if she knew anyone who does related work in China. “John Liu, a filmmaker, documented land restoration projects around the world,” she said.

I looked him up upon my return. In his film Hope in a Changing Climate, John D. Liu captured the transformation of the severely degraded land in Northern China after the Loess Plateau Watershed Rehabilitation Project.

Loess Plateau (黃土高原) covers a vast area in the upper and middle reaches of the Yellow River. In ancient times, it was fertile and easy to farm, which contributed to the development of early Chinese civilization around the region. But Centuries of deforestation and over-grazing, exacerbated by China's ever-growing population, have resulted in degenerated ecosystems. Its silty soil, the “most erodible soil on the earth,” is deposited into the Yellow River by wind and water, which causes frequent floods along the Yellow River, also known as “China’s Sorrow.” The success of the restoration project proved that the ecological balance can be restored. 

Loess Plateau, early September 1995. Photo Credit: Kosima Weber liu, EEMP

Loess Plateau, early September 2009. Photo Credit: Kosima Weber Liu, EEMP      
                                          
As John D. Liu said, “The entire planet is functional. If we understand how the natural evolutionary process worked... we emulate those and don’t disturb... we can live in the garden of eden.” He has come to see Ecological Restoration as the “GREAT WORK” of our time. 

As Masanobu Fukuoka wrote in The One-Straw Revolution, "The ultimate goal of farming is not the growing of crops, but the cultivation and perfection of human beings."

As Lao Tzu, the Taoist sage, says, "There was something formless and perfect, before the universe was born... It flows through all things, inside and outside, and returns to the origin of all things... Man follows the earth. Earth follows the universe. The universe follows the Dao." (Dao De Jing, chapter 25)

As I continue to ponder the balance in the universe that's yet to be restored, I think about joining my mother to plant together next time when I visit China. Maybe I'll plant that scarlet runner bean that was shared in our circle at E.A.T. 

To connect is the first step to heal. We are part of the earth; healing ourselves and our communities is part of healing the earth too. Knowing that the relationship between nature and humankind is a delicate and eternal dance, I'll learn to continue to spiral, "with no beginning, and never ending."


The garden my mother grows (Jiangsu, China)



2016 January E.A.T. Class. Photo Credit: Brooke Porter Photography


Thanks to:
Our amazing facilitators: Starhawk and Charles Williams  with Pandora Thomas 
The Earth Path by Starhawk
Starhawk’s blog about the 2016 Earth Activist Training
Permaculture Skills Center
Black Mountain Retreat Center
E.A.T. course photo credits: Brooke Porter Photography
Mother(s)

All Participants of the 2016 E.A.T. 
YOU ROCK!